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Reuniting with a lost friend

Reuniting With A Long Lost Friend
My old friend-Image Taken back 1976

Lost Friends

Going about- reuniting with a lost friend.

Many of us as we travel on our journey through life accumulate various types of friends. It could be a close mate, school friend, or a special romance-sweetheart. |

Sadly, the majority of these relationships either alter or simply just disappear through the passage of time.  There are many reasons why, but amongst the most common are:- relocation, change of circumstances, new friends superseding the old.

Find Old Friends | that special one!

The one who was once very important in your life. Sadly it’s often the case that contact was originally lost, due to a gradual fading away of regular contact. Nothing dramatic, or abrupt, it just inexplicably happened. There are of course a host of factors – too numerous to cover here.

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Finding old friends is what we do. Although we assist in tracing people worldwide, being ourselves based in England it is naturally our target focus.

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Reuniting with a lost friend. Let’s look further into what contributed to losing that old friend in the first place.

As our lives go through various stages and circumstances it’s inevitable that sometimes, old friends are (inadvertently) moved aside, in favour of newly acquired ones.

Old friends are often taken for granted. Quicky become lost friends. Often receding in priority over the new ones. Sadly many people don’t realise how important are their very oldest friends. There is something special and unique about old friends who are always dependable, and “still there” despite anything, and everything.

It’s common to have a number of different best friends along your journey through life.

However, these friendships often change, evolve and indeed sometimes devolve. Usually due to circumstances, where in some cases, they (sadly) just faded

Only, later on, sinking in (after they lost them) does it ‘click, that perhaps they treated their old friend quite shabbily.

Taking them for granted, assuming they will always be there regardless.

Reuniting with a lost friend-how to?

As a starter, we suggest the following: Speak to any mutual friends whom you both may have been acquainted with. The more people you can find who you were both associated with: the better chance of a successful trace.

Try approaching old school mates whom you both knew and people you grew up with.

Find out if there is a listing of places such as a former youth club haunts, you both might have attended. Basically, do not leave any stone unturned.

Electoral Registers.

They are a very useful source for tracing old friends from the distant past. You can often comb these directories as far back as the early 20th century.

However, without the precise road, where they once lived at that time it becomes a mammoth task. You need to spend time combing these old directories; from end-to-end. There are also some local libraries’, as well as old telephone and Kelly’s directories which can be useful. All of these books can potentially lead to successfully finding your old friend.

What about using Facebook and other social media platform?

When seeking to find a long lost friend, for sure, social media is a useful tool. Why:- Well, did you know that more than 70% of adults in the UK use Facebook?

Equally important, it’s the most popular platform amongst the age 50 -80’s age group. This is the main age range of users for our services.

Conversely, Snapchat and Instagram are the most popular platform amongst the under 25’s.

People Finder websites

There are a number of such organizations to be found out there- all ostensibly offer what seems to the layperson, very similar services. However, significantly and not so well known most of these agencies require an address for the individual/s within the last 5 years (sometimes 10).

This enables them to carry very quick online trace checks. If they are licensed debt collection type people (or similar) that have access to this information easily.

So, if you know where they resided within the last 5 years, then the trace should be routine and straight forward.

Indeed, usually, these traces take no more than a few minutes and cost around £30.00.

The other type of search is the ones which we offer. They are historic tracing services going back many decades.

Taking up far more time and brainpower. Often taking up to one year or more, to conclude. These are the type of people search traces we undertake.

People Find Traces

Such as the ones we undertake can often in some cases, stretch right back to the 1940s. Actually very little online stuff helps very much here.

It involves checking through non-digital numerous archive records. Birth, Marriage, divorces, deaths, Deed poll, and ship passenger lists.

You will not get a quick result on these types of searches. They cannot frankly be undertaken for a fee of £30.00. Can you imagine working;- day-in and day-out, for months on end, for the princely sum of 30 quid!

What are the chances of a successful reconnection-with an old friend -or old flame?

Based on feedback: It’s about 50/50. Its a risk, but here can be much to gain when you eventually reconnect with that lost friend.

But if the first time around you rather abandoned or let that person down, there is quite a high percentage chance of failure. Even if more than 50 years have elapsed since you last met.

This particularly applies, in the case of broken romantic connections.

Especially when you damaged their ego. Thus leaving a bitter after-taste. Feeling mentally bruised and injured that you once “ditched them” or so they think.

‘Spurned lovers’ are notoriously unforgiving.

Even when so many years have gone by. let’s face it who can blame them!

Equally and quite significant, even when lost friends are happy to renew acquaintances, sadly, often the reconnection does not last long. Very disappointing, when you have moved ‘heaven and earth’ to find them again.

We see many cases where once the initial novelty, and euphoria in finding them has ‘worn off’ the friendship fizzles- out.

Social Media communication can often create complacency

One of the downsides of this technology is, you don’t need to try so hard to retain that connection. The individual is permanently on tap at the touch of a button, on the keyboard.

Thus taking away some of the magic excitement (of a letter or phone call) now lost with digital communications. They simply become an addition to their social media book. Making them frankly a bit sloppy about it.

We can’t say for sure but in our opinion: But once mutual recollections are exhausted, there is nothing much new to be said/added.

Consequently, now finding themself being boxed into a corner with really nothing much more to add. This creates a dilemma. Usually what happens is, instead of abrupt severance of communications they let things gradually slip away. Instead of replying immediately, it can take a week, and then a month, then never.

Reconnecting with an old flame All-in-all -It’s a bit of a gamble.

But if you really want to give it a go- you could always try us! We will for sure give it our best shot. Or alternatively, try another of similar type agencies.

Good  luck Contact us via phone:- 07444 750 422 or email: friendsreconnecteduk@gmail.com

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