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How to find long lost friends online in 2021? Here’s the story of how a website to find people combined with the help of a very nice man named John. He helped me to reconnect with my childhood friends!
Finding old friends to have a reunion
Did you know that the UK population is estimated at approximately 66.65 million! How many people do you know? How many people have you met during your lifetime?
What happened to them? Where are they now? How did you lose contact with them, when they had been at one time such an important part of your life? Are you looking for finding old friends in order to have a reunion with them? Are there people you miss as you grow older? The Friends Reconnected website helps to track down and (usually) successfully find people. People who somehow slipped through the net. Old friends you have either missed, or lost contact with.
A memorable journey to the past
This was an interesting, as well as a memorable journey I embarked on during the lockdown of 2020. I had the time to remember people who had been friends in my teenage years – some 38 years ago, being an important part of my life. My, how time flies! I wanted to know if they were OK and how they had been affected by lockdown. This also made me realise how many years had gone by in my own life. No doubt the next 50 years (god willing) will zoom by just as fast!
“Where to start?” Was the question!
I thought of Facebook first, but searching their names did not get me anywhere. It turned out one of my lost friends was not on Facebook and had remarried. Therefore, they had a different surname. The other one was on Facebook. However, her name was not unusual, and a search brought up 6 people with her name.
I felt I could not contact them directly. Moreover the recipients might be disturbed by the contact, as I had also changed my surname. My Dad, who has been doing genealogy for many years since he retired had a look for me as well, but without success for the same reasons.
I found it is hard to find lost friends
It was quite a surprise in this digital age to find that I had to work very hard to even begin to get started on finding my friends. I was so used to typing something into Google and getting a result. As such, finding digital info and answers to questions on how to find old friends online in 2021 was actually hard to find, whilst not surprising, was frustrating.
The Births, Deaths, and Marriages Register (BMDS) is a huge source of data collected and maintained by volunteers since the mid-19th century. However, you still need to know information about the date and place of birth and current surname, and any marriages. As such, I was not going to get anywhere with that route.
Even if you have more info than I had, you may still need to know information about the parents’ date of birth, marriage date and location in order to find them. However, even that could lead you to a cul-de-sac. There is no current address provided for any offspring you might find. There is a free database (FreeBMD) that can be used when it comes to websites for finding people, but it is even more limited.
The power of memories
“Memories warm you up from the inside. But they also tear you apart.”
Of course, what I thought would be good to pursue during the time in lockdown (as in making use of the luxury of time due COVID-19 and using that time positively) became a journey of memories. I ended up recalling some of the things we did at school together. It was a Girls Boarding School in the Lake District and we had great fun: going out in the pouring rain and lightning with the house mistress chasing after us all to get us safely inside. Or sneaking out late at night after A-Levels to meet the boys from the boy’s school and even swim in the River Lune. Exams, socials with the boy’s school, and Speech Day before we escaped home.
It was great to have the time to remember my youth
I also had time to appreciate that so many years have passed – not necessarily swiftly, but so long ago from where I had ended up. I felt sad that I had lost touch so easily with some good friends.
My 3 children, although all adults, don’t realise how quickly the years go and how much change you have in your life. They don’t know that there does come a time when we regret losing touch with those who were part of our journey in life.
The last resort – Find people on the internet
But in a different way/style of approach. It seemed the only other way would be to find a fee paying organisation. So, what had I got to lose other than money? Of course nobody likes to waste such precious resources but if I get the result I yearn for, I will go for it.
But from my experiences thus far when searching for old friends on the internet, all other options had failed. However I was somewhat apprehensive as to who is real and genuine, and those who will just take my money and do very little if anything. I made the decision to opt for the services of the one who used no superlatives, gimmicky presentations, and wildly optimistic claims, and success rates which nobody can prove or disprove.
Therefore, I decided to seize the moment!
Carpe Diem! Though I think only people of my age and older might know the meaning. Not that I did Latin at school! I was just young enough then that it was losing its status as a useful subject in the school curriculum. Of course by nature a somewhat cautious individual making this move was a bit daunting. Especially with the media forever awash with stories of rogues and charlatans. I was eventually persuaded to opt for Friends Reconnected due their understated sensible, and stable approach.
Managed by an individual from an era easier for me to relate and trust, being age 75. Of course there any many dishonourable individual from this era to. But, their whole presentation was warming and non-pushy. In fact if anything-quite the opposite. Moreover and quite uniquely they only took on one case at a time.
A website to find people was the answer!
My inner self told me to just go for it – I had nothing to lose! Therefore, I went on Google and started looking for people finder sites and find online friends. Some were gushingly over-confident without much substance behind it-or so I felt. Others were full of Clichés which suggested use of a script/patter as we used to call it. Whereas speaking to John made me feel at least comfortable and relaxed. A wise and seasoned veteran very laid- back, but at the same time reassuring. Although he did emphasise we cannot give you any guarantee of a successful outcome as there are many obstacles beyond our control. He even went further and admitted I might be wasting my money! In other words we are in the territory of gambling! Finally, he advised me to go away and have a good thought about it first. “Take your time and if you are still up for it”, he was prepared to give it a go.
Eventually, I found Friends Reconnected – the website to find lost friends and people
I met a very kind man called John. Not some slick polished youngster using contemporary shallow jargon. John, I learned was a veteran age 75 who was totally jargon free full of common-sense and blunt realism-basically no superficial waffle, Well, we only spoke on the phone, but he is a real good guy and I always trust my intuition. John, for a very reasonable fee, found both my friends in just under a month. There was 50% paid upfront and 50% on a successful conclusion. The latter would be the provision of a full postal current address and phone number, if not ex-directory or an email.
How to find old friends online in 2021? Friends Reconnected is the solution!
Now I am in touch with both friends, and it is good to know they are happy and well. Although we are spread across the country from Lancashire to Brighton, we all are in contact! I hope we get to meet up sometime before too long. If you are looking for your long lost friends and if you have some time and memories of friends you would like to find, please do contact the people-finding website friendsreconnected.com.
So, if you, yourself are looking to find a long lost friend and without any luck so far, Friends Reconnected Team can guide you on how to find old friends online in 2021.
PS. I have stayed in regular contact with John, we have become good friends.