What are the chances of finding a former girl or boyfriend?
Looking for someone you lost touch with?
Finding a long lost Friend……. EASY….hmmm!
Finding A long-lost Girlfriend/Boyfriend we can say is usually an extremely challenging undertaking. If it was not, no doubt you would have already found them yourself without resorting to contacting us.
There are broadly speaking two categories-Easy and -Very Difficult. If for example, you have the person’s full name, age, and location (town) -very easy. It takes 5 minutes. There is enough software to easily find them. You can do it DIY and never come into contact with people such as us.
When trying to find old friends “Data Protection” becomes for us an additional obstacle.
Although it has to be said with new Data Protection Rules although the listing is probably out there often you cant access it. Privacy protection etc. Up until 2015, every UK resident had to be listed and shown in the electoral roll.
Thereafter was introduced an opt-out clause. Many people opted out thinking if for example there were debt collectors pursuing them they could give them a slip. No, unfortunately, licensed debt collectors can circumvent the opt-out option. So you can still be found if you owe money. The other downside of opting out is that old mates, relatives, old flames, etc. can’t find you either.
Conclusion. If you have retained their surname (male gender) names isn’t “Smith”, a known age, live in the same neighbourhood, it’s easy. Unfortunately with all of the above, there is always a snag somewhere.
Reconnection with old friends | not easy
This is our average case. For example, met in Portsmouth in 1972 at University, Named Melanie (surname if we are lucky) parents lived nearby. Brother named Tom. Assuming we have a surname and born in Portsmouth we can identify when and where born and any brothers or sisters. Also if the parent is still alive.
If we have A surname we can theoretically find Melanie or Tom. no doubt Melaine has subsequently married and perhaps divorced. We need to find her new surname, or maybe she retained her original surname. Or perhaps move to Scotland or indeed Los Angeles. So where would you go after that! We know how to approach it, but it’s laborious and time-consuming.
Finding A long lost Friend Some problems we regularly encounter
Here are just a few of many: Deed poll and remarriage name changes, a very common surname which means we have to work through hundreds of possibilities. They when we do eventually find them often a wife/husband will block communications or withhold info.
What you can do before employing paid help.
Try first Facebook, Electoral Rolls current and historic, old phone directories, or Kelly’s Directories
On many occasions, a minimum of 100 hours of time is required.
If all else fails to give us a Buzz!