We always meet new people, get new friends, but what happens to the old ones? What happens to people we lost touch with? Whether we lost them through our stupidity, petulant juvenile rows, relocating or just slowly drifted apart, we might still want to contact them.
Even though the contact may be lost, hope is not! The key is to keep them in your heart and then when the time is right, pick up the friendship once again where you left off. We only live once and sometimes forgetting our old fights might not be that bad, right?!
How to Find Someone You Lost Touch With
At the very beginning, we suggest going back as far as you can. To times and places where you first met and spent time together. Begin at the beginning.
Write everything down.
There is nothing worse than recollecting some vital pieces of information, and then – to forget it. Sadly something that happens more often in older age.
Their name, family members, their friends’ names, occupations, and old addresses. Literally any piece of information might come in handy.
These facts will be building blocks toward a successful trace. It’s okay if you don’t remember much. Actually, in many cases, almost all the above information we ask for is not available. This does not in any way mean the job is not doable just that it becomes more challenging.
Even where you have gathered together all the information we suggested, despite what others might claim, there is still no more than a 50/50 chance of finding your lost friend. We know from experience there will be numerous criss-cross different permutations and numerous main dead-ends you could encounter. However, this is a good basis for your search.
Find Old Friends
To find someone you lost touch with such as a long-lost friend, from school, or an ex sweetheart, first love. We all at some time experience losing friends.
Either by choice, death, geographic location, length of time since last in contact, petty arguments, jealousy etc. However, our true and real friends are intertwined into each other’s hearts forever.
Often the desire to reconnect just needs a bit of a push to kick-start it again. Both sides may be keen to reconnect, but at the same time and understandably somewhat anxious the other side might rebuff them.
The most important thing is to leave the light on. Thus helping a lost friend find their way home to you.
Start Your Search in a Few Easy Steps
Answer a few short questions about the person you have lost touch with. We will review your details and come back to you with a free assessment.
In the Case of a Lost Love
We are left with a memory that no one else can steal and a heart no one else can fix. We have to accept it was not meant to be and live with any ensuing regrets.
Although having said that memories of a lost love are often virtually impossible to erase. Nor the regrets, and recrimination about our own stupidity in losing that person.
There are many who question the wisdom of rekindling a lost sweetheart, and for some, it is unfinished business. Actually, we have learned the desire to reach out once again increases over time, instead of diminishing.
What are the chances of a successful reunion with a lost love? In our opinion, no more than 50/50. But having been presented with these statistics OK, so, you still want to give it a go!
Search for Births, Marriages, and Deaths
Births show (of course) dates and location of birth. It also shows the names of parents and the maiden names of the mother and any siblings. The maiden name of the mother reveals the other side of the family. These potential names of aunts, uncles and their siblings give us an extra dimension. Especially useful, if we hit a ‘brick wall’ elsewhere.
Marriage shows date and location and usually full names of both parents.
Names of brothers and sisters are very useful too. Especially if it’s a female you are searching for. It helps where they married and then subsequently divorced.
Often you cannot pick up on a new married surname. So we search for a brother or sister, who ‘would’ probably know. Preferably a brother as its rare the male changes his surname.
Although we have found quite often the sibling is reluctant to pass on this information without first seeking approval from the person you are searching for. So the element of surprise is lost, and they may simply say NO!
You might want to try Facebook. However, we have not achieved much success here.
Other Options
The only other option apart from advertising in various newspapers is to go to various reunion sites, or revisiting areas where you once spent time together. Or knocking on doors of people whom you recall who once knew them.
Other than that would be to employ professional people finders. At Friends Reconnected, we pride ourselves on helping others reconnect with old friends and partners. We offer free pre-research to determine if your case is viable. If it is, we will begin the search, which takes a minimum of 30 hours. Sometimes, despite our efforts, the search may not succeed, but such cases are rare. Reach out to us via WhatsApp and let’s see what we can do.
So, don’t give up! Your lost friend may be as keen to hear from you, as you are to hear from them!
