Hints on how to Find someone you lost touch with
Find someone you lost touch with- We all at some stage lose a friend.
We lose them in death, to distance, and over time. But even though they may be lost, hope is not. The key is to keep them in your heart, and when the time is right, you can pick up the friendship where you left off.
Even a lost friend will find their way home when you leave the light on. Either way, retaining cherished memories of your lost friend and the good times you once shared together is quite magical.
Find someone I lost touch with
We all experience losing friends.
Either by choice, death, geographic location, length of time since last in contact, petty arguments, jealousy etc. However true friends are intertwined into each other’s hearts forever. Often the desire to reconnect just needs a bit of a push to kick-start it again. Both sides may be keen to reconnect but somewhat anxious the other side might rebuff them.
The most important thing is to leave the light on. Thus helping a lost friend find their way home to you.
In the case of a lost love
We are left with a memory that no one else can steal and a heart no one else can fix. We have to accept it was not meant to be and live with any regrets.
However, memories of a lost sweetheart are often quite impossible to forget. Nor the regrets and recrimination about our own stupidity in losing that person.
Although there are many who question the wisdom of rekindling a lost sweetheart, for some, it is unfinished business. Where the desire to reach out again increases over time, instead of diminishing.
What are the chances of a successful reunion with a lost love? Statistically pretty slim! OK, so you want to give it a go!
How to find someone you lost touch with.
At the very beginning, we suggest going back as far as you can. To times and places where you first met and spent time together.
- Write everything down. There is nothing worse than recollecting some vital pieces of information and then- forgetting it. Sadly something which happens more often in older age.
- The vital information would be as follows:- Friends’ full name. Address, names of parents, brother and sisters, and any mutual friends. Schools attended- workplaces. Social clubs, names of any platonic boy or girlfriends.
Armed with some, or all of this information is the building block towards a successful trace. But do not despair In many cases almost all of the above information we ask for was- not available. This does not in any way mean the job is not do-able, just that it becomes more challenging-shall we say.
Assuming you possess some, or indeed all of the information we described-you are good-to-go.
However even where you have gathered together all the information we suggested, there is no more than a 50/50 chance of finding your lost friend. We know from experience there will be numerous criss-cross different permutations, with numerous main dead-ends you could encounter. However, this is a good basis for your search.
First, we search for births, marriages, and deaths.
Births show (of course) dates and location of birth. It also shows the names of parents and maiden name of the mother and any siblings. The maiden name of the mother reveals the other side to a family with potential names of aunts and uncles if we hit a ‘brick wall’ elsewhere. As well as more importantly leads to show if there were any siblings.
Mariage shows date and location and usually full names of both parents
Names of brothers and sisters are very useful too. Especially if it’s a female you are searching for. It helps where they married and then subsequently divorced.
Often you cannot pick up on a new married surname. So we search for a brother or sister or sister who ‘would’ probably know. Preferably a brother as its rare the male changes his surname. However, we found quite often the sibling is reluctant to pass on this information without first seeking approval from the person you are searching for. So the element of surprise is lost and they may simply say NO!
You might try Facebook. However, we have not achieved much success here.
The only other option apart from- advertising in various newspapers, reunion sites or revisiting areas where you spent time together and knocking on doors of people whom you recall once knew them, would be to employ a professional people search agency. There are quite a few out there but we do not know how effective they are.
So, don’t give up! Your lost friend may be as keen to hear from you, as you are to hear from them. Friends reconnected 2019 https://friendsreconnected.co.uk/