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How to find an old girlfriend by her maiden name

Find your ex-girlfriend or old flame England

Find an ex-girlfriend in the UK. Find a person by by their name and then of course find soneone by their adddress. 

Let’s look at how to begin. The logical route is, of course, to start at the beginning. Retracing all the steps which you can recall: locations, names of any friends, and family members.

As an example to find your ex-girlfriend: Jean Watson. We start with where she was born: Brighton. DOB would be a bonus but if not the approximate year. Usually, amongst young people at the time, an age gap is narrow.

So, we research Jean Watson birth records between say – in your case 1946 to 1949

We begin the task to find an ex-girlfriend by initially searching for Jean Watsons 46-49 Brighton. If we find no listing we just widen the net. Using the same search we search county of Sussex – or even wider. At the same time through various directories, we search any parents listing to establish if any siblings which might help later on.

Once we have a target of say 6 possibilities we then try to find out where they are today.

When searching to find an old girlfriend there are free records of marriages which go up to 1983. By a process of elimination, we can pin it down to a handful.


Finding your ex-girlfriend – we hope!

We now have to put it all together. This becomes somewhat more tricky, involving electoral register searches. More complicated by the fact these days (since 2014)  people can opt out of being publicly listed. 192.com is a good start but you have to pay. 


It’s also questionable whether it is up-to-date. Moreover, as mentioned above it does not include those people who opted out. If you are sure it’s Brighton, you could visit the local town hall and request to view the “full” current electoral register. Incidentally, Town Halls are the only places where you can peruse the fully listed electoral register but you have to be supervised.


Other approaches to find an old girlfriend

There are other “paid for” directories. Some give instant listings of all persons with the same surname of whatever the married surname is. It also lists any other residents which are great.


If you know she married Michael…?  The field might then be narrowed to just a couple of individuals. Often there is a phone number too. So, as follows: Jean Smith married: Michael Babbage in 1972. Married in the district of Luton in Bedfordshire.


We then do a search to include both Michael and Jean Babbage. There might be two or three listings, and we start with the ones located nearest to Luton. If none are whom we are looking for, we extend the search to the entire UK.


Finding a lost sweetheart

What about if she/he divorced and has a new surname? There are online sites which list these events. Also there are online listing for deceased persons. Of course, the task can be ‘muddied’ if she moved abroad. But not insurmountable, especially if we have the names of Sibling’s which I mentioned earlier. Chances are they haven’t all moved abroad.


The above is a basic outline of what is involved when people start searching.

Another part of the research is relatives such as cousins

We can go through the same process as described above. However, we are then into the realms of serious amounts of time, spent on the project.


There is of course Facebook


Facebook is a supplement to all the various avenues of pursuit in finding your elusive lost old girl, or boyfriend.


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